Raising a child can definitely be backbreaking. While none of us would want to compromise in our child’s upbringing, we oftentimes end up facing situations that can go haywire if we don’t come up with quick-fix yet effectiveresolutions. One of the subjects that spur a lot of emotions among mommiesis “If Children Should Have Separate Rooms” and “If Yes, Then When?”
Let’s Discuss if Children Should have Separate Rooms
Let’s Hear What The Experts Have to Say:
Apparently, experts have voiced diverse opinions on this subject. A lot goes in while making the choice like age factor, sex of the siblings, psychology and of course, the home environment. Every situation is different and there’s no particular answer to this. But, if you’re about to present your kids a classy bedroom, then you better check out these loft bed designs.
Shared room vs. Separate rooms:
There are both pros and cons in sharing bedroom space. We have been there; have shared rooms with our kith and kin and roomies and we know that living with another being has its own ups and downs.
Surveys reveal siblings who share bed room are more giving and loving, know tocompromise, encourage and share stuffs, work in harmony, understand emotions and know to take better life decisions.
On the other hand, siblings who don’t get along well, experience tensions in each other’s company. They oftentimes are cranky and rebellious and feel stiffy due to lack of privacy. Such children tend to spend more time out than at home. They are introverted and have trouble coping up with studies.
When asked parents during a study, they revealed sharing space made their children to adapt to different personalities and life approacheseffortlessly and are more family inclined.
And although children who have had their personal spaces grew up fine, were responsible and matured enough, they lacked compassion to deal with emotional issues.
Honestly, there is no persistent result. There are good points, especially when families live in smaller houses. But, psychological studies also state that ‘Privacy’ is the keyword.
Each child should have a little bit of space of his or her own. The issue becomes trickier when the siblings are of opposite sex.
There comes an age when a girl and a boy face severe time coping up with the changes (within them, physically and mentally). During such times, seclusion is what they look for as they grow uncomfortable in each other’s company while dealing with the changes (we all have been there). The urge grows stronger when there’s a huge age gap.
We, as parents, should try to include children in decision making. Some teens, who are great communicators or extroverts love sharing space while others hate it. It also depends on factors such as personality, habits, passions, hobbies etc. Hence, it is a wise decision if we leave the choices to our humble teens.
At What Age Should Kids Have A Separate Room?
According to a study, it is not the age but the developmental changes that tells that it’s time to give the children their own space. Ideally, siblings of opposite sex should be split between the age of 6 – 8 or before the girl hits her puberty.
However, not all of us have the luxury of spare rooms. In such cases we can always try to offer options and boundaries to the kids. For example, we can have the girl child change her clothes in another room or set up a curtained area for changing.
Also,we should teach children to respect each other’s spaces as much as possible. The basic habits like knocking door before entering, asking permission to use the bed or the wardrobe or any other personal stuff should be taught, I believe.
Well, the bottom line differs for each one of us, don’t you agree? For some shared bedrooms are thumbs-up and for the rest it is total no-no. But on a lighter note, let’s say as long as the kids are comfortable in each other’s company and have no complains whatsoever, it is well and good.
So friends, what do we learn from this? Do you approve of the points mentioned above? Since the discussion is open, please state your insights on this subject in the comments.